Anger is the
emotion which is the body’s reaction to the unpleasant moments . Anger is created
when we choose our response to the situation in aggressive way . When someone does
the thing which we don’t expect them to do then we get angry.
Basically
when our desires or expectations doesn’t get fulfilled the way we expect , that
moment we respond to it by emotion of anger or rage . We have created some
beliefs or mindset about everything . When things falls out of our expectations
zone then our response to it changes to anger.
Having set
expectations for every person or situations is the main cause of our anger
. We have choice over how to respond to
the situation even though that fall out of the expectations set by ourselves .
Selecting
wiser response to situation is the best way to control your anger . We have to face
so many situations where life doesn’t happen the way we want .If you keep on
getting angry for each and every situations then your life will be real mess.
Basically there
are some techniques to change the way you respond to situations .Rather than
getting emotional we can choose rational response to the situation. Controlling
anger require dedicated effort to monitor causes of the emotional imbalances
and changing the pattern of response.
The problem
with losing your temper on a daily basis is that it becomes a habit and after
few repetitive actions will make it second nature .Keeping your cool in a moment
of crisis can save you years of pain and anguish.
Instantly we
get angry over someone but after few moments of losing temper we realize that
we have hurt the person for a trivial reason or actions .Regret of getting
angry often is the one step closer to your pursuit to take control over it.
Ways to control your Anger
Awareness about nature of anger
Anger is the
temporary emotion which arises due to unpleasant situation and thoughts about
the situations. Pressure and stress in our life is causing us to get short
temper easily .Always try to understand nature of your anger.
What makes
you get angry ? what are the main causes or occasions ? by understanding your
root cause of your anger you can take necessary actions to control it.
Most of us
are not aware or don’t accept that we lose our temper easily . Not accepting
the faults will never give you the chance to take actions to control it.
Don’t be victim of the truck of garbage
We are surrounded
by so many negative peoples . They are carrying their “ Truck of garbage” which contain hatred , criticism , rage , anger ,
faults , expectations ,jealously , hurts , ego . Whenever we come across such people
they try to dump their truck of garbage upon you and try to derive pleasure out
of it .
So beware of
such negative influences where they always keep searching someone to fight with
and dump the garbage on them . Anger is more vulnerable to this truck of
garbage . Keep safe distance from such negative people or situations .
Count to 100 before you respond
Anger is
temporary reaction if you could able to hold on for a moment then you can
change your response to angry situation .Simply counting to 100 will divert your attention from angry reaction and
you can them respond to person with ease.
Hold tight grip of fist & deep
breathe
When you
want to respond person with anger just hold on for a second . Try to take
control of situation by holding tight grip of fist for a few second that will
divert than energy into resistance to fist gripping.
Taking deep
breathe before responding to situation will calm you down .Once you get some
time to choose your response you can reduce intensity of anger.
Avoid irritation in traffic or queue
Mostly we get irritated in traffic where someone
in front of your vehicle move slowly .We scream or yell at the slow driver .Some
of driver will cross you with rush .
Standing in long queue makes us more irritating
. So reduce chances of getting angry we should try to make this journey more
pleasant by listening interesting music , radio ,motivational audiotapes etc.
Empathy and maturity
Without
trying to understand others situations we instantly get angry over someone . If
you take enough efforts to try to understand real situation of person sometimes
you will later regret for your actions.
Let’s have some
maturity while dealing with unpleasant peoples . They are acting out of their
ignorance or immaturity but we must have that much maturity to overlook their
faults.
Overlook minor faults & Rational expectations
from others
In parenting
we experience more anger towards our children .Main cause of anger is that they
are not behaving that way we want . So don’t be carried away by expectations or
desires from your children .
Always have
maturity to overlook minor faults of others . If you keep on responding with
anger then you will be more susceptible . Have rational expectations from
others so that you will not fill betrayed .
Don’t get over stressed at work
Too much of
work pressure and stress at workplace makes you more vulnerable to get angry
easily .Present days work life has changed drastically to boost the work
pressure .
When we are
stressed then we get irritated with everything . Simple acts from family
members will make you more irritating . Your work life balance will be at stake
. Make wise choices of balancing life .
Change your diet and habits
What we intake will mostly decide the behavior of our body . Too much spicy food and excessive meat consumption will tend your body to get angry easily .
That’s why most of
the sages or saints suggest to have vegetarian diet , which makes our mind calm
and cool temperament .
Meditate -Take control of thoughts
If you still
find difficult to control your responses then the last and best way is to start
meditating regularly . Meditation will give you better control over your
emotions.
Regularly
mediating habit will make you very calm and peaceful person . Even in worst
situations your response to situation will be peaceful and you can observe
better control over anger .
Final revelations
We are getting too much harmed by anger.
Too much of expectations and desires from others is the main cause of our anger
. Present life style where we are too much under pressure of performance also
causing you to get angry .
Angry can be controlled by wisely choosing
response to the unpleasant situations. Habit of getting angry over every
trivial matters will make your life more miserable and unhappy .
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