Complaining is the habit which we have adopted over period
of time. We have every reason to complain about but very few occurrences for
appreciating others .Complaining is basically trying to impose own opinions on
others .When someone don’t follow your instructions or someone does the thing
which you don’t like you start complaining.
Complaining further strengthen your ego .When things doesn’t
fall the way you want then you start pointing out others mistakes .Complaining
habit will always force you to find lacuna's in others rather than appreciating
.Those who are carried away by this habit they will never even will be happy in
their life .
Deriving pleasure by pointing out
We are trying to derive pleasure by finding faults in others
.We always try to find shortcoming in others then we make fun of it .Pointing
out others for faults is always easy than
the suggesting improvement and helping them to grow and prosper in life .
Why we are obsessed with these pleasures??
We feel happy whenever someone fails in their endeavors. Simply
blaming others for mistakes won’t add any value into your life or your progress.
Have some maturity to understand that you are strengthening your ego that’s it
.
Focusing only on bad in others
What we see in others is the self-reflection .Which type of
person we are ,as per that we treat others. If you have already achieved
success through hard work and dedication then you will always appreciate those
who are struggling to make a way for success .
Complaining is the personality which focus only on bad in
others .They never look at brighter side , they will keep their focus on what
is going wrong in other’s life . Focusing in bad in others will make you life
perspective wrong towards others as well as towards yourself .
Envy or jealous of others
When we feel that someone is more successful than us , then
we start feeling jealous about them .We compare others only for final success
which is visible to world but we don’t want to look at how hard they has worked
to get that success in life .
Complaining others due to envoy or jealousy makes you feel good .We are just strengthening our emotions of comparison by complaining .Rather than comparing if you appreciate their success and learn the techniques from then will add more value to your life .
Wrong perspective or predictions about others
What we see may not be the truth, it depend on our
perspective .We keep on blaming others for not fulfilling our expectations or desires.
We are not aware about the lens through which we are seeing this situation.
We have script ready for everyone in other life .The predictions
we have made are totally depend on our belief system .What we have observed or grasped
till this life span will make your judgment about others .
We judge others based on our beliefs but we never what to
examine the truth or reality of our perspectives. We keep on complaining for
not matching with expectation but we have to look into the basic algorithm of
our program.
Underestimate and Label others by face value
We feel like we are experts in all the fields of knowledge .We
try to overvalue our self by underestimating others. But the fact is that to
hide your ignorance you make excuses or simply complain others saying that they
are not performing as per expectations or standards .
We always make judgment or pass comments based on the face
values . We never know what depth of knowledge they might be having but we try
to pass loose comments by face values or appearances. Complaining others for
not having talent make them feel more talented .
Don’t appreciate efforts of others
Those who are habitual of complaining will keep on finding
faults in everything .We are too much surrounded by such personalities who try
to find situation or person to complain about. Those who don’t love themselves
are the one who will never appreciate others .
We should always appreciate others for their efforts to
boost their efforts .You are the reason for your unhappiness in your life
.Instead finding faults if you change your perspective towards gratitude then
you will start appreciating others .
Expectations from everyone else
We have expectations from everyone. They should do the
things the way we want or else they will be treated as offenders .We only want
others to serve us but we never make any efforts to serve others .This
mentality of selfishness makes you complain more about others.
We have feelings that this government ,peoples, relatives
,spouse, children’s are not listening to our ideologies. When things go wrong
then we start blaming everyone for their inefficiencies .We feel that they
should behave the way we want else we complain .
Trying to impose own opinions on others
As a parent they always complain about their children for
not meeting the expectations in study or in social behaviors. They have
feelings of dominance over the children , they expect them to listen and fulfill
their desires or dreams .
Why we are trying to impose our opinions??
So don’t force others
to live the life the way you want, let them have their own freedom or choices
to live life. Don’t complain others for not behaving the way you want because everyone
has their own priorities or interest to serve.
Trying to dominate others due to self-insecurity or deficiency
Those who feel insecure about their job or position they
will try to defend it by making others feel downgraded. They will always try to
dominate you by coercion . People try to hide their deficiencies by complaining
others for not having enough maturity to understand.
Simply complaining or fault finding will not strengthen your
deficiencies some other day it will be surfaced. Stop criticism to make
yourself superior than others .These low politics will not last longer. Superiority
has to be gained by more values and integrity in life .
You are not always right
Why we are trying to prove our-self right always??
Remember that no one is perfect on this earth, everyone has
some lacuna .Complaining means feeling superior or assuming yourself fault free
. Awareness about oneself and appreciating small efforts of others will reduce
your habit of complaining always .
Don't try to prove yourself right all the time .Those who don't accept others opinions ,they never learn from others .Don't shut your doors of knowledge and experiences by pretending yourself always right.
Final Thoughts
We never want to self-examine before blaming others .We Even
don’t want to change our self, rather we keep on defending our beliefs and
opinions.
Complaining or fault finding is a bad habit which will
eventually make your life more miserable .You will suffer a lot because you
think that others are the reason for your unhappiness.
Complaining others you are trying to feed fuel to your ego
.Ego will always force you to point out others and feel satisfied by
underestimating others.
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