Why we build relationships in our life ?
Every human being is a social being. We have emotions and feelings. We express ourselves through our feelings. If you take out emotions out of the human being, then you are just like a animal which can't express the emotions.
When emotions arises we need some one to express it. As only human being can respond or react to your emotions, you need to have some relationship with other human being. Base of any relationship is to share feelings, thoughts, emotions, joy, happiness, sorrow etc. We can't alone enjoy the moment , need arises within us to share with many peoples.
Human relationships are the essential to share emotions and feelings. We get into relationship with someone so that we can share our love and joy. Love relationships are mostly dependent on the emotional basis.
We choose our partner based on the which type of feelings other person have about you. If you share common feelings then you tend to divert towards that person.
Emotional dependency is the root cause of worry about human relationships. When we even think of losing closed one will create thoughts of losing the emotional support. We fear if someone close to heart goes away then how we will survive. But basically we are fearing about the losing the emotional support and attachment we have with the person.
We all get entangled with the emotions of closed one. If someone scold you along the road side that will not bother you much but if the scolding person is your closed one then you will feel bad about it.
Emotional attachment will lead to fear of losing the support. You worry too much about the relationship not because of the person but because of the attachment of emotions with that persons.
Our relationship with our mother is pure form of love. Mother likes her child because she project her self image in that child. It means she get too much attached with the feeling of love. No mother would ever bear the pain of losing her child.
She got too much entangled with the emotions with her child so that she can't image herself without child. She worries a lot all the time whenever the child doesn't show up on time at home. Base of that worry is she doesn't want to live without that emotions or feelings of love and compassion.
We get attached with identity of the relationship. We project our self as a indivisible part of the relationship. When we have any doubt of losing that relationship then we feel that we are losing our self identity with that relationship. We don't want to detach from the emotional bonding we have with that relationship.
Worry is a fear of not having that relationship anymore. Basically we don't want to feel alone. We always find someone to share our sorrow and joys. If you lose closed one then you will not feel comfortable with others to share your true feelings and emotions.
Love relationships is the base of that emotional dependency. Why we get attracted towards particular person? because we share same emotional base. We are in align with the same feelings and opinions or thoughts.
So we get attracted easily and then we fall in love with that person. If you don't find you love partner suitable then you will not fear or worry to lose that person or relationship. But you are totally depend on your relationship then you can't bear the pain of breakup.
Social relationships is the essential part of our life. We are more cautious about the opinions of others. As we try to maintain social status, we have to follow some ethics and values. But most of the people are too much carried away by the opinion of others so that they strive hard to meet the expectations of others.
Don't be victim of false social image. We must fear to take any illegal actions which hamper the society. But social relationship should not be always only for show off or pride.
Final Thoughts
Emotional dependency is the main cause of worry about the human relationships. If you don't want to worry about relationships, then you have to detach from that emotions with that person. Social relationships are necessary to share life's happy moments. You can't live in isolation for longer time. Human being are designed to live in society.
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