"Happiness is a choice, our habitual modes of thinking decide it"

What are the major obstacles to happiness and how to overcome them

Being a control freak

We always want to become IN charge of everything. We should our life should go the way we wish. We are continuous state of trying to control the flow of life. We want people to behave the way we wish. We want things to move ahead in life as per our plan.
But in reality it doesn't happen the way we want. They we feel so bad about the situation which we can't control. Real cause of unhappiness is too much expectations from life. We want our children to pursue the career we wish. We want our relationship should thrive on our own preferences.
We really need to understand that harder you try to control the life, things will go beyond your control. Going with the flow of life will only make your journey of life more happy and smooth. Instead of continuously resisting what life has manifested, we must accept it with maturity to reduce the suffering.
Complaining

Why we can't find peace with life?

Why we constantly get irritated by surrounding people?

Why we have problems through out the life?

If you have below questions in mind, it indicates that you need to do some introspection. We are complaining about everything without trying to understand the root cause of problem. When we feel like everyone around us are wrong, then you need to do some homework about your own behaviors.

People will keep on fighting and complaining about the life. They are always in state of trying to proof themselves. Complaining about life will create the feeling of unhappiness. We feel like at every stage of life there is continuous struggles and there is no respite from troubles.

Complaining about people will temporary give you pleasure but in long terms it will not get resolved. You can derive pleasure by complaining about the job, boss, spouse but root cause of you satisfaction lies within you.

Whenever you feel like nothing outside is working to resolve the issues in life, then you must try to find solution for problem by looking within yourself. We have so many flaws but we are not ready to accept the truth. We keep on trying to prove ourselves by complaining about the ineffectiveness of others.

Blaming others

Simple way to run away from life problems or situation is blaming others. When we face the failure, we simply blame others for it. If you keep on blaming others for your success and failure then you will never find happiness in life.

You are handing over control of your life to others. If you don't want to take responsibility of life then no one can save you from making life worse. Our happiness is not at all depend on the others, we have power to choose our happiness at every moment.

Blaming will only strengthen you ego. You will keep on blaming life for sending troubles but you forgot that you are creating them due to your self ignorance. No one can make you happy rather than you yourself. So take charge of life by taking responsibility of life.

Being self-centered

If you have to much obsession with the success, then you will never ever thing about the feelings of others. Those who always want to win will eventually get trapped in excessive indulgence in always winning.
Self-centered person will always thing of himself. He doesn't want others to go ahead in prosperity. Such person always keep on comparing others. If they fail some times then they will never be able to handle failure in life.
They will experience more pain and suffering due to failure. Self-centered person will never find contentment in life. They will keep on building empire without enjoy the life. They will keep on chasing the money without using them for comfort.
Comparing yourself with others

We always compare ourselves with the others. When you see the progress of your colleague you will start feeling jealous. You compare your achievement with the others. When someone make progress in our surrounding we feel uncomfortable.
Comparison is the major cause of our lack of happiness. Everyone have there unique way of living life. Comparing with others you are underestimating the essence of your life uniqueness. You are unique and special the way you are born, so always appreciate the life you got.
Comparing others will make you more vulnerable. If you jut want to imitate others it will never make you happy. You have to find your way of living life. Live the life by your own way to make it beautiful. Don't waste you valuable life by comparing with others.
Self-guilt or doubts

We are in continuous state of self-guilt, we feel we are not fit to the surrounding. If you keep on under-estimating yourself then you will always find it difficult to deal with the life. We always compare ourselves with other that will create the comparison. We always feel like we are inferior to the others.
Self-guilt for the things which happened will make you feel always bad. We always blame ourselves for the past mistakes. Victim mentality will impact on you self confidence. You will always doubt your ability while making life decisions.
Whatever happen in past is gone. Don't get stuck with your past mistakes. It will spoil your present and future. Always learn from the past mistakes to create the better future. Everyone makes mistake. We are human beings not the robots to run as per program.

Holding grudges

We all have the stories to repeat for how bad we have treated. We carry grudges for everyone around use. Whatever experience you had in past must be forgotten. Carrying the past grudges will activate you pain body, which will keep on reminding you the suffering.

Always move on in life. Life is a flow. Where we don't much time to waste on living the life by holding others in your mind. Complains or blaming will not make you life meaningful. When you lack the understanding you are bound to create suffering by holding grudges.

What life experiences good or bad you must learn from it and let the past go. You can't make progress in life by holding heavy burden of past on shoulders. You have to release your past to avoid the resistance in present.

Final Thoughts

"Change the way you think and react to bring happiness to life"

You have the power to choose happiness. You wise decisions and you thinking habits can make a difference. No one can make you happy rather that you yourself. Take a responsibility of life to make it happy and contented. Acceptance of life is the key to choose happiness in every situation.

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