Habits to maintain long lasting happiness
Get rid of these habits to be happier
It’s a mystery why humans continue to hold onto habits and
emotions that make us unhappy, especially while we simultaneously buy into
false notions of happiness which turn out to be more harm than help. Instead of
adding things on to your life, have you ever thought of getting rid of the
things that aren't working?
Whether it's in the form of praise or in the feeling of
accomplishment that lies ahead, the biggest mistake people make is waiting for
happiness to come from something outside of themselves—and only after they
achieve something. Every morning, take 10 seconds to decide to be happy. It's
that easy!
The hardest of all is letting go of the past. It’s something
that feels like it has a tight grip on you, but in actuality the present is the
only thing we have.
Majority of the news is sensationalized and engineered to
attract your attention, and while you're ingesting so much negativity about
things that are outside of your control, you're putting a lot of valuable time
and energy into feeling bad.
Far too many people are living a life that isn’t their own,
constantly trying to live up to unrealistic standards set by parents, friends,
teachers, enemies, and the government, leaving no time to figure out what
actually makes them happy.
Excuses directly hinder personal growth and improvement, as
we get stuck lying to ourselves and justifying behavior that we don’t actually
want for ourselves. Excuses place you as the victim, when in reality you’re in
charge.
You’re allowed to rock any style of clothing, and you can
wear whatever you want, as long as it makes you happy. Go tight or androgynous,
and don’t listen to anyone who feels the need to share their opinion.
For yourself and for others, labels are reductive and only
contribute to a closed mind. Rejecting something you don’t understand just
because it’s different closes an infinite number of doors for you.
The majority of happiness lies in your perspective, so if
you’re constantly focusing on things that make you feel bad, you won’t be
happy. Don’t give people and situations so much power over you!
Non -usable cloths take out of your wardrobe and get rid of those
uncomfortable shoes that give you blisters, the sweater that clings weirdly,
and those too-small jeans.
Increased screen time has been proven to correlate closely with
unhappiness, which you probably already know on some level but likely haven’t
done anything about it. You’re not alone.
Easier said than done, especially in the era of social
media, but once you can stop comparing, you can start appreciating. Studies
have shown that people who gave up Facebook were less depressed and lonely,
proving that seeing your exes getting engaged is completely useless to you.
Instead, compare yourself only to your past self.
If you don’t believe in yourself, who else will? When life
is hard enough as it is, don’t add extra obstacles by telling yourself you’re
not good enough.
FOMO is the fear of missing out, and once you give it up,
you’ll live life anew. You won’t force yourself to do things you don’t want to,
like going to that party or hopping on that business opportunity that doesn’t
feel right. You’ll save yourself from feeling spiteful, and potentially
hungover.
Sometimes it’s good not to unload your bad day on everyone
you see, but in order for your negative feelings not to fester inside you,
don’t stuff them down under fake smiles. Feel all of your feelings!
Delete anyone you’re friends with or follow online if
everything they post makes you bubble and boil inside. While you shouldn’t put
yourself in an echo chamber, you shouldn’t contain yourself in a torture
chamber either.
It’s easiest to direct blame at others for things you don’t
have, but blame is like funneling all your power into an abyss. That power is
much more useful when it takes responsibility and ownership of your own life
For some reason everyone these days feels they must have a
take on everything, but it’s okay to let things that stray from your own
personal beliefs just be. Not passing judgement so quickly also allows you to
learn more and allow more positivity in your life.
If you fixate on the immovability of plans, people,
positions, and you don’t leave room for failure, change, or growth, you’re
setting yourself up for a huge hit of disappointment when things inevitably do
change. Our existence is impermanent, so it makes sense that everything else is
too.
While the thought of alerting them of your every achievement
is very appealing, it’s also a complete waste of effort that could be put into
finding that beauty in yourself that will attract someone new. Plus, your exes
are likely already aware of how well you’re doing without you having to prove
it.
It’s tempting to make everyone like you, but it’s
simultaneously impossible and worthless. People will inevitably try to lessen
your accomplishments out of envy, plus if you're looking for validation from
other people you'll never be content by yourself.
You should never hang onto a friend that you don’t really
like or that you’ve grown out of. It’s an injustice to both you and them.
Though Facebook would like you to be connected to everyone you've ever met,
it’s not healthy to carry the past with you everywhere you go.
Drinking your coffee black even though you like a lot of
cream and three sugars is not making you any cooler. Neither is ordering a
whiskey neat when you really want an appletini.
Life is what happens when you’re busy failing at that fitted
sheet folding method or that meringue recipe, as the saying goes.
News flash: you’ve always been right where you are, just
look down! In all seriousness, “finding yourself” is largely a way to
capitalize on things like retreats—which are good, but which avoid the root of
the problem: you’re placing your own happiness somewhere outside of you,
whereas you only need to look inside.
Beneath the piles of schedules, to-do lists, and ceaseless milestones
lies the unnerving truth that, at any moment, everything can change. Try as you
might, you can never control other people’s actions, and the sooner you make
peace with that, the sooner you’ll stop feeling so frustrated.
Life is too short not to treat yourself to the things you
love without labeling them as a failure. Moderation is, as always, key, but
don’t deprive yourself of things that make you happy in favor of dangerous fad
diets. If you haven't gotten the memo, juice cleanses don't work!
Maybe you want to be a superhero, and maybe you are, but no
one asked you to be! People need people, and it doesn’t make you less of a hero
if you ask for help—quite the opposite.
Likes are a virtual currency that have absolutely no value
in the real world (unless you’re a digital influence and you’re getting paid).
Counting likes is the fuel of comparison and the antithesis to happiness. Plus
no one will remember that post with two likes except for you!
The need to be right has ended numerous relationships and
causes so much unnecessary stress and pain. But being kind is infinitely more
rewarding, and if you really, really know you're right, relish in that without
rubbing it in other people's faces.
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